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It’s that time of year again - when you make yourself a load of promises, most of which you never keep. Here are some resolutions to ensure you at least enjoy a flirty great start to 2008…

FOR HIM

Listen To Your Partner More: Women sometimes don’t give clear signals, they hint. Tune into what your lover is wanting in and out of bed. Communication is essential for a successful love life.

Drop The Corny Chat-up lines: Women see right through them. If you want success in the pulling stakes find out about a potential lover and make them laugh.

Get More Active: Turn off the TV and ditch the couch-potato lifestyle. Go to the gym or exercise to improve the blood flow to your brain and sexual equipment.

Show That Romance Isn’t Dead: Surprise your lover with a romantic break or leave flowers and champagne at their door. Score a big hit with a handwritten love letter.

Get Your House Ready For Love: Women are easily distracted in bed so keep them focused on sex by tidying up your bedroom and engaging the senses with scented candles, silk cushions and throws.

Let Your Lover Know How Much They Mean To You: Leave notes around the house and make some of them suggestive if you want an evening of fun.

Be Honest With Your Partner: If you’re not serious about a lover let her down gently. Sexually savvy women can spot a womaniser and it’s not attractive.

Get Help For Problems In Bed: One in 10 men have difficulty getting and maintaining erections. Don’t suffer in silence. Look at www.sortedin10.co.uk

Make love-making about your lover: Spend more time on foreplay and attend to their sexual needs before getting your kicks.

Find A New Erogenous Zone: Explore your lover’s body from top to toe. Send her senses wild by stroking her with feathers, satin and fur. Try the back of ears, neck, breasts, thighs or suck on her toes.

Get Adventurous: Suggest making erotic home movies but make a pact to destroy the tape if your relationship hits the rocks.

Tone Up Pelvic Muscles: Pelvic floor exercises can give you better orgasms and greater control over ejaculation and you may even achieve multiple orgasms. Pull your pelvic muscles in and hold for 10 seconds, repeat 10 times. Do this daily and you’ll soon feel the benefit.

Free My Fetish: Make 2008 the year to explore your secret desire. It may be leather, high heels, domination or bondage. Try to find a likeminded woman to share your dreams.

Get In Shape To Try For A Baby: Boost your fertility by cutting down on the booze and giving up the fags. An unhealthy lifestyle can damage the quality and quantity of your sperm.

Practise New Moves In Bed: Couples in long-term relationships can get into a sexual rut so shake up your sexual routine in 2008.

Make Your Lover’s Fantasies Come True: Dress up as a fireman, James Bond or a naughty policeman. At the very least you’ll have a good laugh together.

FOR HER

Say What You Want: Don’t expect your boyfriend to be a mindreader. Too many women expect men to magically know their sexual wishes. Spell ‘em out to your lover.

Explore Your Fantasies: Indulge in sexual day dreams and use them to improve arousal. Read some erotic books for inspiration or watch some sexy films. Take a look at www.lovehoney.co.uk

Have some self-respect: Have the courage to hold out for the right relationship. If you’re being given the run-around, then move on. You deserve better.

Improve Your Sexual Esteem: Lose the pounds you may have put on over Christmas, tone up or get a new look. Pay attention to your appearance, buy some sexy underwear in the January sales and watch your sexual esteem fly.

Take The Lead In Bed: If you’re guilty of expecting your partner to make all the moves, shake up your routine and get proactive in bed. Read a few sex manuals and find a new move you’d like to try. When you’re making love, take control and show him what to do. He’ll love you for it.

Meet New People: Broaden your mind and learn a new skill to boost confidence and meet a new crowd. You don’t need to do a stuffy evening class - try something sexy like pole-dancing.

Prioritise Your Sex Life: If you have a busy life, it’s easy for sex to fall to the bottom of your priority list. Make time to reconnect with your partner. If children make it hard to find time to Buy her roses spend alone, book a babysitter or resolve to get sexy during the day when they’re sleeping or at school.

Get Into Sex Toys: There are so many exciting and stimulating toys on the market, introduce a few into your love-making.

Get Kinky: If you’ve never tried blindfolding then give your senses a treat this year. Depriving your lover of sight will sharpen his other senses. Stimulate him with different textures over his skin and genital area and enjoy the feeling of being in control.

Enjoy Sensual Massage: - Relax your lover before sex by giving him an erotic massage. - Giving a massage is easy. Gently rub the taut muscles of his back with your fingers and thumbs, follow his response and if it hurts then stop. For more hints take a look at a guide to erotic massage.

Plan Some Time With The Girls: If you’re single, arrange a night to explore all the new sexy merchandise on sale by booking an Ann Summers party. Get over your recent break-up by arranging a freedom party. By the end of the night you’ll be loving your single status.

Surprise Your Lover: Send him some erotic texts or have phone sex. If you’re planning a big evening, then spend the day getting yourself in the mood using fantasy. Then phone him at work or send suggestive messages during the day to get him fired up for the evening.

Find Out What Turns You On: Many women feel awkward about masturbating but there is no better way to find out what works for you. Find some private time when you can enjoy a little self-exploration. When you know what really turns you on, you can teach him…